Connecting the Dots – You, Me and Us

Hey Folks,

How are you? It’s been a month. I’m doing great, busy like a bee and as happy as a clam.

Here’s my monthly reflection and update post.

But first, let me direct you to a post I wrote in March last year, “Connecting the dots – why you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be”. In that post, I elaborated on how certain life events were connected to each other and what I’ve learned from connecting all those dots. There was one thing that was not explained yet…so here I am, finally connecting the dots in this department:)

As for my love life, I haven’t found the way to connect the dots yet. I wish I could. Anyway, life must go on and it’s up to me, whether I choose to live it to the fullest or regret all those distant events and wrong people in the past.

In 1998, we were in the same school for 6 years. You’re in the class next door and we were in the same choir team. We were young and busy with school work. Besides, back then, my taste of boys had been restricted to only those with sporty-charm-part-of-school’s-team kind. I especially had a penchant for boys who play volleyball. I started playing this sport since Primary 5, so yeah…puppy crush. This trend continued throughout my first 2 years in junior high. You and I were probably not inside each other’s radar.

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From 1998 to 2001, we were classmates. Still nothing happened. Instead, I had this silly crushes on 2 volleyball seniors and then the longest one-sided crush on your best friend. You told me recently, that you knew about this back then, a long time ago. Nonetheless, I still have a very fond memory of this distant event and have even described it here, this post.

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In 2005, 2010, 2012, 2013, I’ve had a few one-sided crushes and some suitors who came along but they didn’t come close to what we have now. Apparently, they were there to teach me some invaluable lessons on: how to respect and love myself, how to be comfortable and happy being on my own, how to be loyal and committed to my own self-improvement. I need to be happy alone before I’m able to share my happiness and love with someone else.

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In 2014, we met again on that fateful day. We were in the same city for the past 4 years but we’ve not seen each other for 2-3 years. The last time we met were at a mutual friend’s wedding, a reunion dinner gathering afterwards and that’s all. We’ve never talked to one another for long. We were still normal old school friends….until not so long ago *not in friend zone…phew, what a relief*

When I met you again early last year, I was a different person. Beside having my braces fixed in January, I was also more relaxed and happier after completing that one thing that I’ve always wanted to do. I’ve also set new exciting career goals for myself by then. Building a relationship was not my main priority. Of course, the thought of having someone special whom I can share my life with, would hover in my mind once in a while, but I didn’t actively looking. I’ve tried dipping my toes into the online dating world and it was an eye-opening experience. Found out a few months later that it’s not for me and have since deleted all my profiles.

In between those dates and my busy schedule, you were always around. Hike or bike on Sunday afternoons, little gifts every time we met or after your trips abroad, movie nights spent watching animations, had fun and laugh together on dates, just you and me. There were a lot of those small things that were impossible to ignore. I obviously noticed how you treated me differently. There were “something” more than we care to admit. We were probably afraid of being “friend-zoned” by each other. In those months, we’d talk about anything under the sky, except about love and relationship, EXCEPT about us. Anyway, long story short, you and I have finally overcome that barrier.

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I’m wearing my heart on my sleeve now and having the courage and kindness to finally commit to this. I’m new, you’re new. We’re in this together. The dots are CONNECTED. We really shouldn’t be with each other back in those school years, 16 years ago. We were still too young, lack of self-identity, lack of direction, still finding our own ways.

Now that our paths have crossed, let’s enjoy every single step, be kind and generous! ^_^




*I should change my topic next month:)*

Reading list:

Why People Who Feel Complete on Their Own Have Stronger Relationships

How to Love without Losing Yourself

7 Vital Choices for Happy Relationships


How did you spend the first 10 days of Wood Horse Year?

Finally…I found the time to write my very first post in Wood Horse year. As usual, every start of the lunar new year, I’ll be busy with these various activities:

1. Reunion with family and old school friends 


This year, I reached home right on Chinese New Year’s eve. Just in time for the yummy reunion dinner. I’ve written about the sumptuous new year dinner back in 2009, with lots of pictures of yummy food here. The next few days, I visited some of my friends’ houses and met lots of old school friends. We’ve been friends since kindergarten, primary and junior high school years. 15++ years of friendship and every year, we still have the time to gather on this special occasion. It’s totally AWESOME. Reunion with family and friends is the greatest activity that I’ll miss the most.

2. Eat, eat and eat


The second great thing about being at home for the new year is obviously the FOOD. However, due to my new “accessories” (full story here), I had to eat lesser and slower. Just imagine. I used fork and knife to cut pempek (read: traditional fish cake from my hometown) into pieces and could only eat half of my usual portion. My appetite is also cut by half. Luckily, the second week onwards, I could chew faster and eat more varieties of food.

3. Pampering myself – saloon visit for new hair color


It’s a habit. Whenever I’m at home, I’ll do my major hair-cut or hair-coloring. It’s a lot cheaper than Singapore. It’s RED brownish coffee color now. Loving it!

4. Attending weddings


Within the last week, I attended two weddings. One was my senior on Tuesday night (her love story here) and another one was my volleyball junior on Saturday night, right on the day I returned to SG.  What a busy start of the year!

5.  Outing at Sentosa – become a tourist for one day


After attending a wedding the previous night, I was out again for the whole day on Sunday. Tourist mode in Sentosa. I went to the top of Merlion (1st time), tried Segway (1st), luge and skyride (my 3rd, once is never enough!), watched 4D adventure: ride, show and game (1st), checked out the Image of Singapore (1st), went up to Tiger Sky Tower (1st), bounced away at Mega Bounce (1st and oh-so-fun!!!) and Cable Car ride (2nd). We had lunch surrounded by Japanese and Korean tourists at an overpriced restaurant. Luckily, the food was nice. The Imbiah Lookout area is less crowded nowadays because the crowd are all gathered at Waterfront Station, where the RWS, USS (have never been there, the tix is too ex) and the awesome S.E.A Aquarium are located. Anyway, while hopping the various Sentosa attractions with the DAY pass, we found this at Beach station: TIGER outlook in 2014 (or for western zodiac, click here or here)


Anyway, there are so many days in a year, every single Tiger person won’t have the same luck. Just take this with a grain of salt.

My first 10 days of WOOD HORSE year were well-spent. Hopefully, everything will go smoothly this year. Lots of luck in love, good health all year long and be blessed with abundance & prosperity. Remember that we can always hope for the best, but in the end our own conscious effort and a bit of luck, can go a long way. Let’s do our ABSOLUTE BEST!! ^_^

How did you start off this year?

How’s your luck in this WOOD HORSE year? 



*back at work…time to rest:p